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If You’re Worried and Not Sure, Start Here

If you are concerned that someone you love is suffering from an addiction, you may be unsure or be reluctant to come to that conclusion. Your predicament is reinforced by the fact that the person who suffers from an addiction is almost always in denial. Addictions require denial to survive.

There are some simple steps you can take right now.  There may be a long road ahead, and the things you do today can help you and those you love and make that road easier and safer to travel.

As you go forward, remember this is not your fault. You haven’t caused anyone to become addicted. Addiction is an illness and not a choice. All the begging and pleading will not help someone with an addiction to stop.

The Steps You Can Take

1.  Set clear boundaries

Ask yourself: What are the things in my life than I can no longer tolerate?  Write down what you can tolerate and what you cannot. If social events are no longer tolerable with your loved one, go out with your friends on your own. You do not have to spend your time with someone who does not behave appropriately.

2.  Take time for yourself and take baby steps

Do one thing each day for yourself, by yourself. What is meaningful about my life right now?  Write down something you can do that will bring you some happiness even if it is small. It could be a walk by yourself, or a visit to a coffee shop with a favourite book or magazine.

3.  Find someone safe you can talk to

The burden of living with and loving someone who suffers from an addiction can be terribly isolating.

How Avvia Can Help

Avvia offers an initial family assessment to determine the best solution for the family or individuals in the family to move forward. Avvia understands that there is no "one size fits all" approach and that a range of options needs to be available to meet individual circumstances. Initially educational materials regarding addiction are presented to the family. In addition, Avvia also offers several psycho-eductional workshops that will help bring the family to a better level of understanding addiction. Understanding addiction can help modify the family member's role in relation to the alcoholic/addict and facilitate change for new healthy behaviours.

Our team of trained specialists have lived with addiction and experienced what it is like to walk in the shoes of someone who has been touched by addiction.


Our next group conversation series begins in the winter of 2018. Stay tuned for information.

Contact Sara Thompson @ sara@mettacoachinggroup.ca ot 647-988-1680